Kathy Cacicedo Photography

Kathy Cacicedo ’85, a New Jersey-based photographer, created this photo illustration, featuring the Statue of Liberty, in response to the terrorist attacks.

      My mind constantly returned to happier times at Syracuse with Jason: our freshman year at Brewster/Boland; filling up his (illegal) waterbed at Watson; celebrating my 21st birthday at Chuck’s; games at the Dome; struggling through a last-minute math requirement senior year. It seemed so unfair. He got married a few years ago, and had a 13-month-old daughter, Zoe. Jennifer and Zoe were the light of his life, and Jason was a truly unconditional friend—committed to his friends, family, and job. He was also passionate about learning, his education, and Syracuse.
      As his memorial service started, I thought about why this had happened, and how terrorist hatred could touch the Syracuse community twice. What is it in the world that perpetuates such evil, and how can it be reconciled? I suspect that it’s best to leave that question to experts. At the end of the day, no action will bring back my friends who were victims of Pan Am 103 or the World Trade Center attack, which is all that I really want.
  Since September 11, much has changed. All of us look at life differently now. We say what needs to be said, we hug our kids, we savor the little moments, and yes, we in New York and the nation are beginning to live our lives again, although they will never be quite the same. I know that this is what Jason and the others we have lost would have wanted, and what they would have done.

      I vow to try to make a difference in the lives of those left behind, to support them and love them as those who are gone did, to tell them stories about times we had with their loved ones, and to perpetuate the values they stood for. And I will never forget them. Jason’s spirit will live on in his daughter, and in us—his friends and fellow alumni. None of the evil in the world will take that away.

Kristin Walker-Bidwell, a 1990 graduate of the College of Arts and Sciences and former member of the SU women’s rowing team, is an account supervisor at J. Brown/LMC Group, an advertising agency in Stamford, Connecticut. She lives in Pelham, New York, with her husband and three children.

Responding to Stress

As a seasoned family therapist, I have learned a great deal from generations of successful family functioning about how to respond to stressful times in ways that heal rather than harm. Crisis brings out the best and the worst in people. Denial is a short-term solution, but long-term growth occurs when we are honest with ourselves and others about what is actually occurring and how it is impacting us. Use this opportunity to get to know yourself and your loved ones a little better. It is important to listen to others, to be curious, not judgmental. Give yourself and your loved ones permission to rest and contemplate, to take positive action, and remind yourself that, with support from loved ones and/or spiritual connections, you can tolerate what passes your way.

—Linda Stone Fish, professor of child and family studies, College of Human Services and Health Professions


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